The Trouble With Trust

Isn’t it amazing when you can look into a person’s eyes and know that you can have complete faith and trust in them?  You can trust that this person won’t hurt you, they will do everything in their power to make you happy, and they will never intentionally make you cry.  You trust that they are loyal to you and that a lie will never escape their mouths.  It must make you feel safe, secure, and at ease to have that kind of trust in another person.

Learning to love makes us deal with loss in a very upfront way. Many times we try to hold on to love when doing so only digs the hole of despair deeper for our own lives.

Moving on from a person whom you really love can be painful. Things get tough when you realize that the person you wish to spend a lifetime with isn’t a person that you can ever grow with.

Devoting your time and energy towards a person or situation that you will never be able to change alone, is a maddening process. This insane method of trying to manipulate a situation into what you want it to be often never works because it is almost impossible to change a person who doesn’t desire to do so.

Let the pain and weight of the loved one who refuses to change leave your life, or you will never find true peace or happiness.

I’ve learned that things change, people change, and it doesn’t mean you forget the past or try to cover it up. It simply means that you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up… it means accepting that some things weren’t meant to be.

It happens as we get older and grow up and change. Friendships/Relationships that we thought would be in our lives forever turn out to have an expiration date. Your lives are on two separate tracks and it seems that there’s no going back. And as much as you love that person and cherish the memories you’ve shared together, you know in your heart that the relationships has run its course.

Maybe it’s that your person is overwhelmingly emotionally needy and draining you of your time and energy. Or maybe that person lied to you, betrayed you, or inflicted some other pain upon you. Or maybe your person is incredibly negative, cynical, and pessimistic and works overtime to rain on your parade because he’s jealous of your sun and tired of his shade. Or maybe he doesn’t make the effort and you are tired of being the one to always reach out. Whatever the case may be – if a friendship/relationship brings out the WORST in you rather than the BEST in you, it’s not a friendship/relationship that belongs in your life.

You can love them, forgive them, want good things for them…but still move on without them. Every kind of relationship had significance, and meaning, and importance…for a season. And that season has passed. Just like you wouldn’t wear a bikini in the winter or snow boots in the summer…it makes no sense to try to extend a relation that was only meant to be a season into a lifetime…

"Sometimes its not the person who change, its the mask that falls off."

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